Hi Everyone, it is time for March’s Posh Mom Chats and this month, on the heels of my 2 years bloggerversary, I want to chat about me!! My 2 year bloggerversary passed in February, however given the amount of activities went on that month, (NYFW, Valentine’s, and my own wedding anniversary) I pushed this post to March. So in a blink of an eye, my little blog space is celebrating its 2nd year! So much has happened, yet everything is still the same. I’m going to do a walk down memory lane in the Q&A format that I typically do in Posh Mom Chats series. There are completely unfiltered, honest thoughts and feelings I have in the past year so please excuse any thing that you might find too candid.
Q: Can you briefly summarize your second year as a blogger? What are some of your favorite moments?
I guess year two as a blogger, I am not the newbie anymore. I have gained some experiences yet not even close to call myself an experienced blogger. I started Midweek Inspo linkup in 2016 to share inspirations and motivations with fellow bloggers. My favorite is obviously Posh Mom Chats segment where I get to chat with more seasoned mommy bloggers and momtreprenuers and we share candid stories about the struggle as a blogger and as a mom. I was able to connect with some amazing women, moms and bloggers through this segment and I proudly say that it is my favorite in 2016.
Q: What is the most challenging thing you have encountered as a blogger in the past year?
Keeping up with the constant changes in Social Media. I struggle to find the balance between wanting to shut my phone off so that everything is out of sight and out of mind and engaging with everyone that has left words on my blog or Insta to grown my audience. With limited time everyday juggling between writing blog posts, taking photos, responding to comments, commenting on other blogger’s posts, liking photos, commenting on photos…ON TOP of your day to day tasks is absolutely daunting!! I often take my phone with me to bed at night with hopes to catch up on comments and but fell asleep when my head hits the pillow. There is a reason companies hire social media experts and marketing personnel, we just can’t do it all. I do read every one of the comments that is left for me and appreciate all of your time writing them!!
Q: How has your personal style changed in the last year?
I honestly don’t think my personal style changed much. I have always been attracted to the minimal style but with my own modification. I adore how minimal style bloggers can do black and white day after day, but sometimes I need an injection of color like bright red, or blue or even yellow. I do have to admit that my blogging style have changed a little which is why it may seem like I have changed personal style.
In my first year of blogging, I desperately wanted to “fit in” the blogger world. I would wear things I don’t usually wear, blog about trends that aren’t really my style just because it is the “Hot Trend” of the moment. I even wore pieces that I don’t personally like but it was popular so I can get more comments and likes. However, if you are a fellow blogger and follower of fashion industry, you will notice that EVERYONE is blogging about the same thing. Just like in every #NSale people see exact pieces on every blogger…(BlankNYC moto jacket sounds familiar?) I get tired seeing the same old sh*t repeated on every social media channel. So I decided to just blog about things I like, trends I like and think will be big even if no one else is really talking about it.
Q: Why don’t you do more Mommy and Me styles? You have super cute kids!!!
The idea has crossed my mind, A LOT! In the early days, I would dress up more with Miss K and do Mommy and Me shoots, but it really takes a certain dedication and passion to do that consistently. I’m not that type of mom who gets dolled up with their kids in every outfit. Plus, unless the clothes are gifted or sponsored, the amount of matching outfit you need to buy to have your mini me extension is tremendous. Call me cheap, but I’m not quite ready to spend that much on clothes for just photo shoots. That money is better off in their interest accruing college fund and I’m happy to dress my kids in Gap Kids, Zara or H&M (I’m still waiting for my collaboration offer from them….hahaha).
Q: I’m seeing a lot more beauty and skin care products on your Instagram. Are you planning to blog more on that topic?
So it all started when I decided to Snap and do Instastories with my bare face. I’m talking about no make up, no filters, I just rolled out of bed like any mom of 2 who only had 4 hours of sleep the night prior. It may not be pretty but that is how I am day to day. I feel that photos here on the blog and on my Instagram are very curated and filtered and edited and presented in a certain way. But I want to connect with people in a more realistic way and not just with a glowing, pore-less filtered face. I’m a real mom with real struggles and it doesn’t get more real than to show your true face after a beaten down night.
Around the same time, I started to do little snippets of my skincare regime of products I truly love and swear by. If you’ve been watching my Instastory, you will know my gospel of brands. I expected people to unfollow me after seeing my face (lol) but I guess brands took notice and start to contact me about collaborations. I want to clarify that I am NOT a beauty blogger, I’m not going to plug products that I haven’t personally tried and used. What you see on Instagram are sponsored collabs, however, in order to do full review on skin care products, it takes time to test out the product and examine measurable results. I will not talk about how great an anti-aging product is when that jar is still full. If you see me talk about a beauty or skin care product, I stand behind my words 100% after actual usage.
Q: Going into year 3, what is one advice you can give to someone who just started on their blogging journey?
Once a week, at least one of these things will cross my mind:
1. OMG, there are so many bloggers out there, I’ll never be able to make it, I should just quit.
2. Geez look at all the young, beautiful, stylish bloggers popping up and growing followers like weeds, how can I compete with them? I should just quit.
3. Brands will never notice me because I’m just a dime a dozen and all the other girls have way more followers. I should just quit.
4. So and so blogger started out the same time as I did, or even later and she is now doing so well with growing followings and I’m stuck around the same spot, still plugging away. I’m wasting my time, I should just quit.
Every time I have one of these thoughts, I look at the contents I’ve created, and the collaborations I did in the past year. How far I have come from the year before and I refocus and get motivated again. I’ve done following trends, I’ve gone through the fashion marry go round. Every blogger’s success story and path is different and we only see the success and often overlook the huge sacrifices they made to get there. There will always be new comers doing better, growing faster and that is not something I can control. The one thing that I can control is be the best ME, every collaboration, every post. That goes for new bloggers starting out: Be You and be the BEST you.